When feelings are not addressed in a healthy manner & more to the point faced on a regular basis the next event that stings us cuts into every single wound that we have not faced and dissolved. Lets say for instance that a tragic accident occurs and we feel the pain of grief. This then gives access to other sources of negativity. The view of life can become hopeless and the emotion of despair is instantly triggered. The emotion literally shoots up to the memory bank where another thought of the same caliber is stored. The thought & emotion both work hand in hand to do their job. It is not personal it is simply how the human body has evolved over the evolution of time. This is like a network of thoughts and feelings strung together as a web or despair & the life view then seems to be evil.
What we need to understand is how to dissolve the emotion by facing it on a daily basis. When we look for sympathy it is because we do not hold the intrinsic power to overcome the hurdles in front of us and we cannot walk with acceptance into a more meaningful life. We look to other people in hope that they can provide the 'right' words or action to be the hero of our downfall. Pain that we can face and accept will always change us to be a better person. Acceptance narrows the chance of leading us towards the repetition of these regretful mishaps in life.