Seeking approval from the outside world is a consequence and of a lack of self worth and trust. Self worth is an understanding of one's own capabilities in contrast to the world we live in and trust is an absolute, a knowing that we can rely on our discernment. We have the person who enters an environment wherever that may be, with a severe lack of confidence and this is one who feels intimated by their surroundings; an anxious individual to say the least. When in this state they have no intrinsic power to positively influence the energy field of the surrounding environment and therefore sooner or later fall further down the endless pit of insecurity. Look at the body language and rigid movements, you can see that everything is usually withdrawn which is a trained mechanism intended to protect themselves.
At the other end of the scale we have those who tune into their true Self. This is one who walks into a room and changes the dynamics instantly without even saying a word due to their powerful, undiluted energy field emanating from them. These are charismatic people whom we are compelled to be drawn to no matter how much we try to avoid them. Usually it is envy, jealousy or personal insecurity that tells us there is something 'wrong' with this person. The phrase that often springs to mind is - "He must be hiding something." Look at the body language, the movements and free-flowing with confidence and are like fluid in motion. The truth of the whole situation, the force that is driving us is usually always a fear that we will not look so good when stood beside this person, who seems to be stealing the limelight away from us. If we calibrate ourselves against this person we will be able to see exactly where we are on the scale of confidence. If our confidence and self-worth levels exceeded this person we would hardly even notice them. We actually cut ourselves off from learning what people have to offer to hide the fact that maybe we do need help, but are too embarrassed to ask through fear.
Those who do not need the approval of others are able to live this way because they have let go of the worthlessness and self-pitying act that they are not good enough - this act is usually a default method of tricking others into doing our work for us, to sympathise and to plead our case with us. When things don't go our way and we have people in our circle backing our argument, they plead our case with us in agreement that life has so badly wronged us. We often see these people as the ones who understand, and that the rest of the world just doesn't seem to know what they are talking about. When we are wrong we cannot see that we are wrong, for if it were clear then most of us would seek out the solution to make right what we can at this moment. When we have people backing us - "I'll stick by you right or wrong," they are actually detrimental to our growth and in these scenarios we have double the driving force and therefore more impact when the truth finally hits home. Here is a common scenario where we misplace our trust in our closest peers with an idea that because they are agreeing with us, they must be right. Are we willing to look at the ordeal from an entirely different angle?
At the other end of the scale we have those who tune into their true Self. This is one who walks into a room and changes the dynamics instantly without even saying a word due to their powerful, undiluted energy field emanating from them. These are charismatic people whom we are compelled to be drawn to no matter how much we try to avoid them. Usually it is envy, jealousy or personal insecurity that tells us there is something 'wrong' with this person. The phrase that often springs to mind is - "He must be hiding something." Look at the body language, the movements and free-flowing with confidence and are like fluid in motion. The truth of the whole situation, the force that is driving us is usually always a fear that we will not look so good when stood beside this person, who seems to be stealing the limelight away from us. If we calibrate ourselves against this person we will be able to see exactly where we are on the scale of confidence. If our confidence and self-worth levels exceeded this person we would hardly even notice them. We actually cut ourselves off from learning what people have to offer to hide the fact that maybe we do need help, but are too embarrassed to ask through fear.
Those who do not need the approval of others are able to live this way because they have let go of the worthlessness and self-pitying act that they are not good enough - this act is usually a default method of tricking others into doing our work for us, to sympathise and to plead our case with us. When things don't go our way and we have people in our circle backing our argument, they plead our case with us in agreement that life has so badly wronged us. We often see these people as the ones who understand, and that the rest of the world just doesn't seem to know what they are talking about. When we are wrong we cannot see that we are wrong, for if it were clear then most of us would seek out the solution to make right what we can at this moment. When we have people backing us - "I'll stick by you right or wrong," they are actually detrimental to our growth and in these scenarios we have double the driving force and therefore more impact when the truth finally hits home. Here is a common scenario where we misplace our trust in our closest peers with an idea that because they are agreeing with us, they must be right. Are we willing to look at the ordeal from an entirely different angle?