The life of a child is so precious, but to live as adults in ignorance and throw away our own intelligence we compromise their entire life and a chance of a stable future; this is why it should be mandatory to challenge and confront our own weaknesses, seeking to strengthen them before we throw meaningless words around without any intended action such as “I love my kids.” - This term is often the end of the line and many adults are self-deluded into thinking that by making such righteous statements in peer groups, social gatherings an mainly to themselves, they have cultivated enough right to call themselves a competent parent. The truth is self-evident in that competent parenting can be measured by the child's behavior, to a certain degree, but moreover to the way they handle their own reactions within the child's development structure. The parent who is continuously trying to prove to others that they 'love' their children, are usually lying to themselves because those who truly love and care for their own do not need to speak the term over and over or to prove it at all - the love can clearly be seen through constant action and they are in a much more secure personal place than having to make statements to cover the painful truth that they are avoiding something. A true parent does not consider the love for their child or sacrifice the child's development at the price of their own public image. This happens everyday especially within family circles where parents pass the children around to either keep up appearances, satisfy the other or free up their own time, avoiding responsibility. Most parents are simply avoiding responsibility because they are in a habit of doing so. The first time they ever avoided something it was simply because they couldn’t be bothered or that they had something better to do and after a few more experiences of the same, it becomes second nature. When things start to go wrong or the parent is questioned on their ability to parent responsibly they look elsewhere externally, or for an excuse, any excuse to justify their actions and here we have the ego at play once again. Firstly, it is generating energy to sustain its survival and this is truly all it wants but the problem that the parent faces is that they cannot see the denial that they are in and are now forever on the wheel of illusion telling themselves that they have made the right decision. The child on the other hand is suffering because the parent does not hold sufficient knowledge, or chooses the easy root to silence the challenges they face and together they both fall into the trap of self-denial because this now becomes their alternate reality which works as a resistance to the truth of life - the true reality of existence.
There is no doubt that the mother or father loves their child, the doubt stems from the inner workings of the individual because they think of the possibilities and the hardships they may have to go through to change their ways and therefore turn away from the truth that they need to take action. If the adult were to simply stop thinking and look at the situation as it really is they would see that all is needed at the present moment is action. The question of what action should be taken should always be, and nothing can ever exceed this statement in personal development - “What is the next loving thing to do?” There is much action to be taken in life though the mind tends to project fear almost 99 percent of the time which often results in no action being taken at all. We have become separate from our own inner balance and true Self, the higher Self and therefore think that we are separate from everyone and everything around us. The perception of reality has become severely distorted and therefore is passed down to our children as they mimic our actions and pickup on our energetic vibration that we give off. When in the presence of a low energy field such as anger or hatred, maybe an angry parent, the child becomes fearful because this is unnatural to their spiritual balance and because they do not possess the tools to carry out the necessary action to overcome the fear or the courage to face the dilemma they seek to withdraw into their own thoughts and begin the endless pursuit of looking for another way, any way but to face the painful task of managing an unmanageable parent who has lost their ability to stay calm. The child that looks for another way will duplicate such actions which soon become seared into the memory and are now a part of the blueprint in which they will subconsciously operate throughout the rest of their lives until either life gets too painful too handle or someone shows them a clear path and the error in the thinking which they have adopted by their parent or their surroundings.
Every child wants to be loved and when they feel a decline in the amount of intrinsic power in themselves, they do not often realise it but they then become fearful of either what has happened to them or what is about to happen. This is where the personal will kicks in and makes decisions based on illusion, that is to say that an action is taken based on something that is not even true. Any action taken from what one has experienced in the past or what one fears will come to pass in the future moving the person away from the truth of life - the only truth of life is the moment that is currently being experienced such as this moment now as you, the reader who are reading this book. There is no reality outside of this moment and what has happened in the past is only a relative reality because the dynamics are changing through every moment that is experienced. The child’s mind works with simplicity and this can be seen clearly because children cannot understand complex mathematical sums or scientific calculations though if you ask a child how they feel or what they sense in a particular person or experience they can usually tell you that they have a feeling of security or insecurity and this is because they are still very much in touch with their instincts. The parent who teaches the child to follow their instincts and to hold their intellect in second place gives the child a springboard into the realm of self-trust and this is key to the growth of any growing child.