What are we passing down to our children?
A child needs to be taught to develop healthy attitudes in life to ensure they are reaching maximum potential to reach their goals. How can we show others healthy routines if we are not leading by example? We often hear people saying "Do as I say, not as I do." Well, the first word that springs to mind here is hypocrite. When we tell people, especially our children, that they should be doing the opposite of what we are doing they naturally have a lack of trust in our word, regardless of whether or not they show it as something does not sit right in their mind. How can we display one course of action and then preach the other with justification that it's okay for us, but not acceptable for them? If we want to gain trust then we need to practice what we preach. That's not to say that we will never make mistakes in life but at least try to live by an example that we wish others to follow, even our employees and friends.
A good example is the boss that is hated simply because they don't live by their own guidelines and principles. Admitting that we are wrong or asking for help from one of our employees, even at beginner's level, is a humbling and respectable act and will gain the trust of many. Most will not say it, but they will know in their hearts that you have acted with humility and over time their level of respect towards you will increase. Just because some people cannot translate what they see into words, it doesn't mean they do not understand. If people in your circle, whether family or work, are not susceptible to positive change then you either need to readdress the dynamics of the circle or train them to fit the purpose. Bring light to situations and help people to connect rather than staying focused on what people haven't achieved. Help them to be better through time and effort. Blaming people never worked, but educating them did...
A child needs to be taught to develop healthy attitudes in life to ensure they are reaching maximum potential to reach their goals. How can we show others healthy routines if we are not leading by example? We often hear people saying "Do as I say, not as I do." Well, the first word that springs to mind here is hypocrite. When we tell people, especially our children, that they should be doing the opposite of what we are doing they naturally have a lack of trust in our word, regardless of whether or not they show it as something does not sit right in their mind. How can we display one course of action and then preach the other with justification that it's okay for us, but not acceptable for them? If we want to gain trust then we need to practice what we preach. That's not to say that we will never make mistakes in life but at least try to live by an example that we wish others to follow, even our employees and friends.
A good example is the boss that is hated simply because they don't live by their own guidelines and principles. Admitting that we are wrong or asking for help from one of our employees, even at beginner's level, is a humbling and respectable act and will gain the trust of many. Most will not say it, but they will know in their hearts that you have acted with humility and over time their level of respect towards you will increase. Just because some people cannot translate what they see into words, it doesn't mean they do not understand. If people in your circle, whether family or work, are not susceptible to positive change then you either need to readdress the dynamics of the circle or train them to fit the purpose. Bring light to situations and help people to connect rather than staying focused on what people haven't achieved. Help them to be better through time and effort. Blaming people never worked, but educating them did...
