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Classical Music And Neurons In The Brain

12/26/2017

The influence of music on neurons in the brain. Luciano Pavarotti once said “if children are not introduced to music at an early age, I believe something fundamental is actually being taken from them”.

People are surrounded by music everyday; it affects mood, concentration, creativity, and even the ability to learn. How can a combination of a few notes have such a profound effect an on individual’s ability to learn? When in infant is born, there are billions of nerves and nerve connections in the brain that are necessary for survival. These neural connections are formed through experiences and strengthened through repetition. An infant is exposed to new situations everyday that affect the nerves in their brain, and once these connections are formed it is very difficult to reverse or rewire them. Listening to music helps to create and strengthen more neural connections because nerves that deal with the auditory system of the brain are being activated in order to hear the music.

Music is a stimulus that needs to be processed by the brain because we have receptors for sensing and reacting to music. The act of processing this stimulus influences the neural connections in the brain and therefore affects other neural connections which in turn affect the outputs of the body. The Mozart effect is a phenomenon that states when an individual listens to short bursts of music, their intellectual and motor abilities increase and become more efficient. It has a profound effect on young children because their minds are still developing at a rapid rate and their neural pathways are easily influenced. The music composed by Mozart has a 60 beat per minute pattern that is repeated throughout his pieces. This pattern activates the action potentials in the right and left hemispheres of the brain and it strengthens the connections between the neurons that connect the two halves. Strengthening of the neural connections leads to more efficient information processing because the brain must concentrate on comprehending multiple stimuli and it therefore becomes capable of multitasking. The ductility of an infant’s brain must be utilized to its fullest potential, because unused nerves are rendered useless.

Healthy Living Space

12/26/2017

A healthy living space is very important to assist with the balance of all things in life. Where we live does not determine our outcomes in their entirety, though the way in which we live does have a substantial effect on our experience and for those around us too. Our children benefit from our personal sense of well-being and balance as do our partners. When we create a healthy living space we are working in accordance with nature. It is true that the body is in perfect balance with nature and any tilt in the balance can clearly be seen when illness manifests in physical form.

Your living space is not only a balance in the body but in all things possible - in all areas that one can reach and aspire to. Yes - balance is an aspiration and a great achievement and those who are consistent in cultivating this healthy space will surely succeed in gaining effective results. Love, health, money, homes, children, work, social life and virtually any area of life that you can interact with is a part of your living space. Without sufficient space nothing can grow or reach out to higher heights, the same way that a plant needs sufficient space for the roots to ground themselves and for a suitable amount of light to trigger photosynthesis.

Our bodies are triggered by external forces such as skin reactions, food and health supplements and it is our living space that can often dictate our daily mood. When we surround ourselves with a healthy living space we can often see clearly when outside forces are no longer serving us and seek to find that balance again in all things - we change direction and head for what we know to be beneficial. The body is the only true vehicle that allows the energy to renew itself within, everything else that we see outside of ourselves has to take energy from an external source such as electricity or the sun.

After being subjected to healthier experiences the body itself becomes stronger and when in the presence of lower energy fields does not become as affected as someone who's body is weaker.

Survival of The Fittest; The Ego

12/24/2017

You cannot battle the ego. When you take a step in the direction of disabling this part of the personality it too takes a step down with you. It is the shadow that encases you making you think that the light at the end of the tunnel will blind you. Every time you attempt to disable the ego the issues that bring you pain or misery in life you are now starving the ego of its feed, its air to breath and regenerate. Bear in mind that all of these personality traits have been accumulated over a vast period of time and may take some time to unravel their chaotic nature. This is perfectly normal and once started, you have begun to plant the natural seed of your true personality's flower amongst a garden of weeds. Let the child make his mistakes, let the child experience his love loss and pain. Where adults are concerned, for most people it is often only when they fall far down enough into the deep darkness of their own torture that they can ever really rise up and conquer their own fears and self - but it doesn’t have to be this way.

Thoughts & Emotion; The Link to Pain

12/24/2017

The majority of the population around the world are under the impression that thinking will bring them to mastery and a state of completion at some point in their lives. This thought pattern is only true to a certain degree such as the financial or social extent that one can reach, and is completely erroneous where true reality is concerned. It is also the culprit of all pain and suffering in the world especially for those who are considerably wealthy but still experience turmoil in their lives. When you fall in love it feels good, when your love leaves you the feelings creep in with a devastating blow - look at how many people have hurt themselves and others through the loss of something or someone they have become attached to - we see it everyday on the news and it is riddled throughout the media because most people are true to their feelings but never true to their real Self.

When you learn how to master the mind and face your feelings then neither of the two can penetrate you, eventually dissolving the personality (ego) and moving you into the natural reality and state of joy that is really you. If you did not get emotional when someone hurts you then you would not feel hurt, pain, distress or even act out of anger. The reason why this sounds impossible or alien to your current belief system is that you have been trained since a child to act upon your feelings and negativity, though now it is time for a change. How often have you told yourself - 'I have to stop thinking like this.' If you could detach from the amount of thoughts that you have on a daily basis your brain capacity would open up so much that you would be propelled into a whole new plane of existence. You are taught from the earliest age possible to think hard about things and listen to your feelings. This is where the vast majority live and this is where the seed for pain grows, it is nobody’s fault it is the process that we call life but it is not true living.

Being In The Moment

12/24/2017

I will stay in each moment that arises. The past is a memory replaying in my head and the future is yet to come. By being fully present in this moment I maximise the potential for the best possible future – There is no need to project my thoughts.

Daniel Dempster

Tony Robbins - Significant Problems...?

12/24/2017

Moving From Problems To Solutions

12/24/2017

The power of your thoughts are the reason you are at the very point you are in at this moment in time. You may be wondering why there is so much pain around you at the moment, where there is sorrow and heartache in your life constantly.

When there are problems in your life, it is common to ponder them and try to figure a solution or look for the best way to move forward. The problem with this is that when you focus on the problem for too long, your thought expands and adds more energy to the problem itself, therefore making the problem bigger. It is this thought that you project, this energy that you feed out into the world that actually creates your reality. Everything needs energy to survive. The building blocks for creation are determined by the amount of thought that is given to any situation you are presented with in your life. Giving too much thought (worry) to the issues that arise will breed more negativity if you continue to offer morbid reflection around the idea. There is nothing wrong with entertaining a mental assessment of the problems in you have, though this must quickly be followed by the idea of a solution. We can all focus on our problems and quite easily recognise exactly what is going wrong in our lives, but it is a trained skill to be able to move from the thought process of the problem and into the solution. The bridge between the problem and solution is determined by how quickly you can move between the two; the quicker you are able to take action will define the outcome. How much time you spend focusing on your solution will give energy to the creation of that solution. Even if you feel that there is no solution and cannot see a way out, you need to move away from the problem. The critical change in your thought pattern which allows you to move towards your solution is the most important mechanism of the mind for success in reaching your solution.

As the problem arises, see it for what it is. Whether it be a financial, health or personal issue. The key is to then instantly detach from the idea that you have a problem and move into the positive mindset of the solution even though it has not materalised yet. You cannot create a positive outcome from the standpoint of negativity. Your mind seeks a logical explanation for everything and when it faces a problem that it cannot solve a negative feeling can quickly arise within you. This negativity is like a whirlpool of water and your mind is the tap that allows more problems to flow into that whirlpool, thus making it bigger. Once the 'weight' of a positive idea begins to outbalance the negativity the problem can be overcome and the law that governs the issue will be replaced by the new thought pattern and you will begin to see the change, which can then be followed by action. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

A Woman's World - Self-Worth

7/20/2016

Ladies - Do you know your self-worth?

Why is it that many of us lack confidence during the interaction with the outside world but find safe haven in our comfort zones behind the four walls of our confines? What is it that makes us feel we are undeserving of the fruits to which other women seem to reap so effortlessly? What makes us use our painful past as a reference point to drive our present time forward, bringing us limitation and lack of self-worth? Seeking approval from the outside world is a manifestation of fear and a lack of self-worth and trust. Self-worth is an understanding and a trust in one's own capabilities in contrast to the world we live in or what we are told by judgemental people around us and this trust is an absolute - a knowing that we can rely on our own discernment rather than the opinions of others.

We have the woman who enters the worldly environment, wherever that may be, with a severe lack of confidence and this is one who feels intimidated by her surroundings, an anxious individual to say the least. When in this state she holds insufficient intrinsic power to positively influence the energy field of the surrounding environment and therefore sooner or later falls further down the endless pit of insecurity, slowly selling her integrity. Because the total energy field of the environment is of a higher rate than her internal energy she is automatically consumed by her environment, moving away from her self-worth. Study the body language and rigid movements, we can see that everything is usually withdrawn and this is a trained mechanism, with the intent to protect oneself. Now, at the other end of the scale we have the woman who enters the same room with the knowledge of how to attune to her true Self, the woman who realises her self-worth and walks with the power of knowing what she wants. This is one who walks into a room and changes the dynamics instantly without even saying a word due to her powerful, undiluted energy field emanating from within. This charismatic woman, whom we are compelled to be drawn to no matter how much we try to avoid, seems to be ‘special’ or to be holding the key to the first woman’s salvation, but this is not true. What is it that differentiates the two women from each other? Well, the first woman is allowing the outside to define how she feels inside and therefore how she will act according to the other players on the board. This means that she is living at the effect of the world (whatever happens outside is defining who she is on the inside, which in turn decides her present, next moment and future).

The second woman is having an effect on the world and is influencing her surroundings considerably, usually in a positive way. This strength can be seen in powerful business women and in strong mothers in all areas of life. The separator between the two is that the first woman is being driven by fear, usually a fear that she has carried forward from her childhood, broken relationships or the fact that she is unhappy about certain features of her body or life. Now of course, she can only make this self-imposed judgement by measuring herself against the people or the world around her - meaning she can only be unhappy with herself if she desires to be what she sees around her and feels is out of her reach. She is the one who continues to compromise in men (accept anyone, usually the first encounter) and almost any other situation she comes across in life. She often accepts less than what she is truly looking for through the fear of being alone, amongst many other internal struggles.

So how can she move out of this desolate place in herself? When she begins to focus on the positive points in any area of life, only then can she break the chains of a self-imposed prison. Why is it self-imposed? Because she has the choice to change though subconsciously thinks that other people were handed a better deal of cards in life, never seeking her own gifted talent. She may say to herself "I may not have what other 'desirable' women have but i have a good nature, nice skin, a good job etc. so i'm actually quite fortunate" then she now moves up into a higher energy field. It could be anything to be grateful for that will move her to her true destination rather than leaving her stuck in the the alternate, painful reality she has created for herself. The only way she can attract the inner security, self-worth, car, job, man etc. in her life is to move up through the lower energy fields (shame, guilt, fear, insecurity) that she is trapped in so she can accumulate the internal power to draw them in and manifest them in her life. By this time her self-worth and sense of security has strengthened and she no longer feels less than what she sees around her. She begins to appreciate and cherish her self-worth. It is a universal law that to attract her desires she must hold the sufficient power as same level of her desire. A good example is a magnet; a small magnet (low self-esteem or minimal levels of power) cannot attract a large magnet (confidence or high levels if power). The bigger magnet would pull everything of smaller power towards it and attract whatever is in range and will then discard the rest. Here is the mechanics of both women or man of course. Here, we can now see how she can now influence the crowded room or any area of life, therefore enhancing her life and naturally gaining more power to move up the scale towards her goals and ambitions.

Usually it is envy, jealousy or personal insecurity that tells us there is something 'wrong' with the confidence in other people but we cannot see it of course. The underlying truth is that we cannot see how to reach their desirable position from our standpoint because we would have to face some self-revealing facts about our ourselves, therefore we find it easier to move forward in ignorance. The phrase that often springs to mind is - "She must be after something." Yes she is! She knows what she wants and has realised her self-worth. Look at the body language, the movements are free-flowing with confidence and are like fluid in motion because she will not stop until she reaches her target - all other variables or obstacles along the way fall to the side. The truth of the struggling situation, the debilitating driving force is usually always a fear that we will not look so good when stood beside this person who seems to be stealing the limelight away from us. If we gauge ourselves against this person we will be able to see exactly where we are on the scale of confidence. If our confidence and self-worth levels exceeded this person we would hardly even notice them. We actually cut ourselves off from learning what people have to offer to hide the fact that maybe we do need to change, but are too embarrassed to ask for help through fear of this hiding place being revealed - to defend our quarters of confinement at all costs.

Women who do not need the approval of others are able to live this way because they have let go of the worthlessness and self-pitying idea that they are not good enough. This destructive idea is usually a default method of tricking others into doing our work for us to sympathise and to plead our case with us. When things don't go our way and we have people in our circle backing our argument they plead our case in agreement that life has so badly wronged us and we can often see these people as the ones who understand, and that the rest of the world just doesn't seem to know what they are talking about. When we are wrong we cannot or choose not to see that we are wrong, for if it were clear then most of us would seek out the solution to make right what we can at this moment. Where women are concerned (and men) it could be that she is not happy with her relationship, home life, alcohol intake etc., but a friend may say "Oh it's not your fault, if you didn't have such a hard time at home you wouldn't drink so much." Does this really help? The friend is really saying that it's okay to ignore the problem and blame someone else. Then comes in the guilt for not wanting to upset a friend so she agrees and carries on in the downward spiral. When we have people backing us - "I'll stick by you right or wrong" they are actually destructive to our growth and in these scenarios we have double the driving force in the wrong direction (rather than true power) and therefore there will be more negative impact when the truth finally hits home, if ever sadly. Here is a common scenario where we misplace our trust in our closest peers with an idea that because they are agreeing with us, they must be right. Are we willing to look at the ordeal from an entirely different angle and realise our self-worth?

What good is a velvet dress without an honest smile ...

Opinion is Perception

6/15/2016

Here is an example of the problems we face with our opinions: If Jack stands up and says he hates animals then this is true in his limited experience and understanding. Jane however might be an animal lover who totally disagrees on the matter and looks to voice her opinion in disgust at Jack's lack of compassion and narrow-mindedness. Jack has been injured three times in the past by animals and is certain that they are dangerous and cannot be trusted at the best of times. This is a very limited perspective on the entire animal kingdom. Jack is operating from a well known place of feelings and memory. If the idea of feelings and memory is misunderstood then the person can have a very limited outlook on life. Jack is still experiencing the pain and is still bitter and hurt. Every time he sees an animal the fear rushes from his suppressed emotions into his brain through memory which is simply placing him in a specific energy field after triggering the thoughts that he has associated with animals. This is an energy field which cannot serve him with a positive attitude to move forward in life. Now let's look at Jane who has worked with thousands of animals for years and has also been injured several times. She has seen animals save people's lives, guard dogs, those that help the visually impaired and are the eyes of the person allowing them to travel around without sight, sniffer dogs helping to clean up the streets of criminal activity making them a safer place for children to play and animals that offer love and companionship to the young and elderly, and so on. There are situations all around the world based on a similar principles that often lead to blows and even death over such trivial matters. Both are sure that they are correct and that the other is wrong.

They are in fact both simply stating the truth of their own existence. What is occurring is a consequence of the total accumulated knowledge that they have both experienced. Had one of them simply accepted that people are from different walks of life then they would have a wider outlook on the whole situation enabling them to look at it from a point of understanding and appreciation which would enhance both lives dramatically. This method of action would change the outcome resolving many of the situations that arise in our daily lives. Both would do better and be wise and to act from empathy in an initial attempt to understand each other first thus building a bridge of understanding. This changes outcome as it would resolve many of the situations that arise in our daily lives.

Parental Attitude Recall ...

6/15/2016

If you scream and shout at your son or daughter they will surely runaway or seek to withdraw from your presence. Your inner child of the self will also do the same if you constantly put yourself down and tell yourself that you are worthless. Nobody is worthless under the universal law and all are equal. It is only point of view that implies inequality. Most people are completely oblivious to the universal law. Adults today never seem to appreciate or even notice the sky, the sun, the moon, the stars or the huge oceans and everything in existence that provides the training ground for experiencing life. We can be so wrapped up in achieving the next goal or solving the next problem that we are in a never ending cycle of insanity which can be very tiring and strenuous leaving a deep scar on us. This often goes unnoticed in our daily lives and it is imperative that we take responsibility and care for ourselves. Notice how our children ask us a variety of questions everyday and how they look in complete awe at the workings of nature. We lose this inquisitive aspect of our personality as we become sucked into the social structure around us. We grow up trying to fit in with friends and society hoping that our premeditated actions will gain us higher status amongst our selected crowd of people. These are the people whom we place our trust in and seek answers from, the same people who are ill-equipped to deal with their own matters let alone anyone else’s. We have more chance of obtaining a more accurate and honest answer from a child to any question we raise rather than someone who has been bombarded by the workings of society for many years because the child is not bias and has not yet been subjected to sociological programming. The problem is that we see children as ‘incapable’ because they are too young to understand however due to their minimal level of social programming they are perfect for calibrating us and stating the truth. They see all situations as they are and have no vested interest in any outcome. That which never discriminates is closer to God or Divine intelligence and resides within us all. Rebuild the bridge for the reunion with your inner Self which holds the key to all of the answers you seek.

May 20th, 2016

5/22/2016

''EVEN YOUR OWN SHADOW LEAVES YOU IN THE DARKEST HOUR OF THE NIGHT.''

Sometimes we find ourselves wondering why our life seems to constantly bring us more of what we don't want instead of what we have asked for. Our desire for materials or experiences is an energy that we project onto the world and not life that projects the energy onto us. We decide through social programming whether something is good, bad and right or wrong and are therefore placing another distorted opinion on what we call the world. This opinion has been built up layer upon layer by the social programming that has been constructed over many years since the birth of mankind. Regardless of where they have come from it is up to us to remove them if we want to be free. Looking for someone or something to place the blame on is a complete waste of time and a disregard of personal responsibility in ignorance of our own needs. We are responsible for every single situation that appears in our life. Yes you are responsible for every single one of them as it appears in your life. Taking responsibility for our whole life is the first step to freedom and anything that we are not accountable for will fall away from our experience. We are not guilty of anything that we do not understand though we are responsible for raising our self-awareness to do better. Becoming free from our own imprisoned mind and adopting simplicity where complex situations arise is the key to a happy and successful life.

We all have needs in the world and there are many obvious necessities such as love, nurture, food and water which we all need to sustain our existence and grow in a productive and healthy manner. If we search deep inside we will find that most of our needs are not really needs but habits that we have trained our minds to copy and follow. We now accept them as normality and have come to believe that life would be empty without them. We have accepted these ideas and memes which appear in the form of slogans, systems, signs, images, pathways, habits, moods, modes, strategies and a multitude of other forms they arise in. They become gently infused into brain leaving us unaware of the damage they are doing to us in every moment. There is nothing wrong with desire in the world the problem is the neediness of the desire. It is suggested to give up the attachment to your desires or at least begin the process now. We seek our dreams to the ends of the Earth and become frustrated when they do not materialise and after giving up we change direction. This is usually when the dream appears. (When we do not hold that particular desire anymore).

When someone or something enters our life or leaves us it can be devastating if we are not prepared for it or aware of its coming or going. If we are internally and mentally trained we are aware that such attachments are destructive to our existence and then have the ability to make the change to what is beneficial for us. You never actually lose or gain anything in the world you only think you do. Experiences appear in front of us on a daily basis but usually we do not like what we see and don't even realise that we have brought them upon ourselves. Should we get upset or frustrated about this? This kind of reaction will not serve us and will emanate an energy out of us attracting more of what we do not want. Everything manifests from the unconscious then into thought form and manifests on the physical plane with its counterpart energy field in consciousness. All that anything can be at any moment in time is all that is possible under the current conditions. When someone has upset us and we seek to change them or the circumstances we are operating from a point of resistance in the universe and are sending out a negative energy which will bring us more and more of the same. We often feel that they could have tried harder to satisfy our demands. When we think in this way we overlook the fact that most people would obviously do better if they only knew how. Doing our best is never a failure it is the gateway to better things no matter what the result is. We either choose to accept things in life or battle them out with our mind until we become mentally exhausted or physically ill using energy that we could have put to use elsewhere in finding solutions. Usually later on we find that most of the things we did not receive where to our own advantage and something better was waiting around the corner. Like a teenager who wants the latest football shirt and acquires it on impulse in the shop only to find it marked at half the price a few days later in another shop. Though how many children do you know of that learn from these kind of experiences? Hardly any! They usually go on applying the same attitude towards life for years until they finally learn their lesson, if ever. This is clearly seen in adults too and is where most of the children pickup their habits.

Footprints We Leave Behind

5/21/2016

The vulnerable infant, the defiant teenager, the struggling young adult and the confused parent. What a maze of wires we seek to untangle in the struggle for balance throughout our years of parenting. When will we strike this neutral balance and what is the shortest route to get there? Time is so precious as we soon come to realize when our babies quickly spring out from their infant years under our noses, straight into their early teen years. The beauty we once thought would stare us in the face for a lifetime, the innocence we once cherished seems to be slipping away through a monstrous evolution called growth. A parent’s nightmare seems to be the uncontrollable and defiant child that simply cannot see the well-intentioned parent - why has this kind of common conflict spread all across the globe and how can it be addressed in the most effective way whilst minimizing time and effort?

Before our children are born our imagination seems to be fired, aflame with the ideas of how our children might grow, how we might shape their future so that they can become happy, successful and pleasant members of society. Here is the well-intention parent such as you and I, and here is our expectation in a world of uncertainty. Are we setting ourselves up for pain in life through our expectation or does life really fall short of delivering justice? What is confusion? Confusion is not being able to understand the reason for something due to expectation clouding our natural vision. If we have no expectation, then whatever presents itself in front of us will be true in its own form for we would have placed no resistance within ourselves to counter its reason (we see things exactly as they are without taking judgement). If one can even come close to viewing ourselves, the child, the teenager or anything in the world in this state of clarity then we are almost home and dry to maximizing the potential for the best possible outcome in any situation. The single principle which can be noted as self-awareness can be applied to any area of life though we will use the idea of parent and child as this seems to be the common area of struggle throughout the world today and of course, change starts at home - within.

Looking Through The Mirror

5/21/2016

We can become scared to look into the mirror of reality due to the memories of pain and suffering and the fact that we may need to make changes that will drive us far from our comfort zones. In reality there is no harsh hand of cards dealt to the ‘less fortunate.’ Each individual is in their current position due to their choices that they have made and it is a karmic inheritance. When we notice suffering in the world then this is where we have placed our attention and is an aspect of our own inner suffering looking directly back at us - the mirror of our own reality. That is not to say that nobody suffers, though wouldn't it be a good idea to minimise it starting with ourselves by focusing in a positive direction? The world is within us and not outside of our body as we think because take away the body and you exit the world, so to speak. We are an aspect of the huge energy field that allows the world to operate and we are an extension of this energy. Every single atom in existence has the universal potential within it and this is a part of the immaculate blueprint of life. When fear is dominant in us, the universe creates more situations of what we are running from because we are seeding the thought and that current energy pattern - this is what the future will bring. Do we really want to run throughout our whole life from fear or is the universe actually assisting us by providing situations for us to overcome them? When we live in fear we project this energy out into the world and it gives us more and more until we change our energy pattern. If we only had one chance at overcoming our fears in life most of us would have failed a long time ago so that fact that the universe continues to cultivate chance is a fortunate thing. It is not life throwing us a harsh hand of cards rather than life offering us the opportunity to relinquish problems once and for also that we can be free of them.

We are on a path, a journey to fulfil our potential with every minute and every step that we take whilst walking this Earth and this is happening whether we are consciously aware of it or not. The magical part is being aware so that we can enjoy every single moment. After continuously practising the techniques described herein the egotistic shadow of the personality has now started to fall away and we now begin to breathlessly accomplish tasks and actualise our potential like never before. What most people call magical and miraculous we will very soon come to know as normality. Our intentions will begin to match our desires which will finally cease to elude us. By reading this text so far our worldly experience has already changed and we will never be the same again. We will never experience the world the same way or look out onto the horizon as we have before because every single moment that passes in our lives is a new experience and all we ever really have is now. The past or the future is not real and it is only this moment now that is real. We cannot create the future by daydreaming about it we have to take the necessary action now. Cherish the moment of now in everything that is experienced as every single step we take leaves an everlasting footprint in the universe and there is no escape from our own karma. What we are is our karma. Take a slow relaxing breath and clear the mind of any unwanted thoughts lingering around. Now focus inside near the intuitive gut area. Focus on the place where we often feel 'butterflies' rather than searching outside of the body and read on with an open mind enjoying this moment now. Life is an endless expanse of building blocks and there is never a last piece to the puzzle. We are on the leading edge of creativity.

Falling Short - Our Child's Dilemma

5/21/2016

THOUGH FAILURE IS NEVER REALLY FAILURE IS IT?

Never a failure always a lesson. I do not know anyone who has failed. I have never met a single person who has failed although I know many people who are still learning. What is failure? It is a learned set of attitudes. It takes practice to keep on failing! It is another mind virus operating throughout the entire world. It takes effort to think of yourself as a failure over and over again. If a golfer makes a hole-in-one shot from the tee then surely it would take skill for him to do it again? What difference is this skill to one who constantly misses the hole? It is the mechanics of the player and his learned technique. If we consider ourself a failure then we have simply trained ourself to fail. This is another program running inside the mind which is activated each time we set out to complete a task, it is our trained expectation. “I'm no good at golf” or “I was never any good” is a prime example of why people cannot overcome situations.

Look around at the many people, child and adults who rarely ever complete a task. Very rarely do they finish a picture, a book, a sentence or story - hardly anything reaches completion for that matter! Take a look at some of the children of today and observe how they move from one experience to another. When writing or drawing they often write a sentence or draw a small picture on a piece of paper then move to the next page. They often use the whole pad of paper and have hardly even written a single line on any page. What is it in the child or any human being that would instruct them to act in such a manner? It is the mental program of incompletion and the feeling of boredom - but the boredom seeds the incompletion. The mental program executes the action and the lack of understanding of their own feelings is the makeup of this phenomena. This is what they have copied from their experience so far and have picked up from their surroundings. The child thinks that there is something better waiting on the next page or simply turns the page out of habit and has a trained thought patten which quickly jumps to the next moment.

With this pattern of thought nobody can ever derive their full potential out of any situation, they are cultivating quantity rather than quality and will continue to do so until life teaches them otherwise. This individual is a product of social programming and their mind has been trained to act in this way. Many children jump from one thing to another throughout the whole day exhausting every single activity there is until they get bored and then move onto the next activity. The following day the child awakens again using exactly the same method to push through the day with no understanding of the process. This has now become a trained set of values and the child values this as their existence. It shall be this way unless a responsible parent or adult teaches the child ways to extract the fullness and the quality out of life. They need to be shown patience & beauty in completion. This can be done through love and responsibility and teaching them to make full use of their surroundings rather than the usual method where the parent simply points out the errors that are being made offering no further solution. Many parents are quick to jump on their children for their lack of understanding and wonder why they keep on repeating the same mistakes, rarely offering solutions and merely pointing out problems. It is obvious we only know what we have been taught or that which we teach ourselves so we have a responsibility to the eduction of ourselves which in turn educates our children. It is often those who think they are the best parents that disable their children via their own ego structure because they have blocked both parties (each other) from the critical learning process. The child will also imitate and eventually operate from the same viewpoint and pattern throughout their own life with limited understanding and insufficient power to overcome the difficulties of life.

This issue is not only happening to our children, it is a vast majority of the population facing this dilemma. People who work in business and corporate organisations often overlook the fact that every limitation of their employees and staff methods are their own responsibility to nurture. The staff need to be given effective training in needed areas and should be approached in a constructive, caring manner in place of disciplinary. There is nothing wrong with a disciplinary scheme however, the dominant area of application needs to be the learning process for the company and employees to progress forward rather than deteriorate. Rewards instead of reductions clearly motivate the staff which would help them operate more effectively, taking a happier and healthier approach towards their work. This also works for our children and in fact anything we approach or experience in life. Suitable action can then be executed in confidence that the work has not completed to satisfaction and the company has provided the best possible conditions to resolve the matter. Responsibility then moves from management to employee. By doing this we create a much more effective working environment for all concerned including ourselves moving further towards completion of our desired goal in a more effective manner.

Where is the love?

5/19/2016

"How can you be in pain when true love leaves if they will always be in your heart?
It is impossible" - Daniel Dempster

How does one handle the pain of loss? Where is the justice in losing a loved one, or even our own dignity from being a slave to the darkness? In this situation the individual usually believes that the dark corner they are curled up in has them in the tight chains of injustice. Through loss of such a cherished loved one it seems that it is an entity of such enormous power that has us on our knees with every memory being another lash of the whip. For those of us who feel we cannot make it through, what can we do when someone we truly love leaves us, such as the relationship falling apart or the event of a tragedy? In the first few months, years or even a lifetime the mind usually beats us from pillar to post telling us that we can't go on - maybe we drink, have suicidal thoughts, breakdown and cry constantly, seek out professional help? The road is an endless trudge of unstable steps when we are so broken. The loss of a loved one can make the toughest man or woman shatter into pieces - the glass mirror we once looked through called love. So then where is the love and why such cruelty for so many goodhearted people? There is a reason, and of course, a solution - ground zero. This is the place where we can't bare to lift our heads from and look straight at the world, though unknowingly it is the same place where the broken fragments on the floor can be pieced together in the strength of our being, making us stronger and allowing us to walk with the memory as a joy to remember rather than a heartache to carry for the rest of our lives. The cherished one we once held in a cocoon can float through the storm in our minds like a beautiful butterfly if we change our point of perception, that is to deal with the pain from the inside and not look at what's missing outside. Get up now or get up later, but one day we have to lift our heads up and face the world - one day we are going to get sick of the misery and let go, so better that day be today rather than tomorrow which never comes - find the fire inside - simple as that.

There are two types of love; one is unconditional (true) love which can never ever fade and is imprinted in the universal consciousness forever. It is engraved in the heart and soul of every being though only a few choose to notice so they can remove the blocks to it. This consciousness is everything you know, see and experience and everything you don't know - it is all possibilities. What we don't know we think of as the future and everyone unfolds a different future of course. We all gain love, friends, family, wealth, happiness and we all lose the same giving us the opposite of what we once held dearly - it is the roller coaster ride and the game of life, but it is only a game if you play it otherwise you will be played into a position you will most probably not favour. Then there is the love that the majority of the population experience which they do not realise is an attachment or lust to say the least, and this is why they cry when they lose the thing they think they love. Basically, they do not trust that the love within themselves is the only real love that they can ever experience and this is why they hardly ever tap into its source and always break at the loss of one thing or another. It starts from childhood - take the toy away from the child and it cries because it thinks it's happiness is in the toy, it doesn't realise the toy has no feeling offer it and that he himself generates the energy. Teach the same child how to love, nurture, understand and care for himself and you have a child who is less likely to be drawn to attachment, or at least will handle it better with less consequences when it faces loss. This principle is the same for every single human on the planet, no exceptions, and the child (or person) will grow housing a higher level of internal power to utilise in the future - it's going to need it!

Your partner, sibling, wealth, job, social status and all of these things outside are not true love it is you that feels the love is it not? Only you are true love. So if the love comes from inside you then it is you that has projected that love onto something that you find special. It is you that sensory projects an energy onto what you desire and that is why you are distressed when it is taken away, unless of course you realise that the loving energy was within you all along. When you reach this state of being nothing can penetrate you and your internal rate of power rises. When we die the world will go on without us and whoever we leave behind, if they are unaware of this concept, will crumble at the loss because you and the other, whatever that may be will not have experienced true love - it was an attachment. It is a simple concept but hard to grasp for a mind which is blinded by attachment. Failure to realise this concept is someone who does not know the workings of their inner self. Because they are permanently focused on seeing the world through the visual eye they project a certain energy onto that which they see in the world and seek to keep it and hold it within their grasp forever. Had they realised their power within they would know the true meaning of why everything dies in the world - nothing whatsoever lasts forever in this domain.

Like the old saying goes 'If you love someone let them go.' In any relationship, any kind of smothering, attachment, jealousy, the spoilt child with the toy, the rich man with all at his disposal that weeps at the loss - any of this kind of activity will create deep emotion which will explode at a later date certainly at the wrong time and end in tears or catastrophe, adding to another personal burden for each to offload if they ever figure out what is going on inside them. When is the right time for negative emotion to come out? - With a shrink or after fighting and hurting each other? This is what tears apart relationships of all kinds leaving broken hearts and such deep pain that the person cannot stand to be with or without those external things and it has now become a vicious cycle - it is worldwide and all because they cannot learn to love themselves enough that when the storm comes they do not sway. Self-knowledge is solid roots like the tree that knows if its roots are not deep enough in the ground it would not stand for long when the storm hits. Everything in the universe is by design - see the baby tree freshly planted, it does not snap in the storm because by Grand design the storm does not come to a place where things are not ready to withstand it - watch them grow. Self-love and the art of relationships is a design that is not to be built personally, it is to be discovered within and only when you find this within your true match will touch the plane of your heart and if ever they go you will smile at the wonder that nothing can break you, or them. This is only a partial observation of the idea of love (as the untrained population see it) in the male and female, sibling and material value relationships.

Lovers, friends, families and more are ripped apart through smothering the partner or the opposition through a battle of supremacy over who is right or wrong or who should be the decision maker. The potential solution for a lasting relationship is the idea that each person should obviously lead in certain areas (where they are clearly more skilled) but both need to realise that there is a time to step back and let the other take the lead even if the partner is 'wrong.' We hardly ever see that all most people want is to be heard and given a chance, an opportunity to make an achievement or a mistake so they can learn. A couple who can stay together and build an ongoing ship to steer takes teamwork and dedication to reach a long standing relationship just the same as the couple who can part and go their separate ways with a smile in their hearts have truly learned the art of self-love. It is paramount for both to reach their destination in harmony whether together or apart. The leader and the follower, the superior and inferior relationship will never be a fulfilled and comforting life because it leaves the other trailing in the shadow of the one they want to love but cannot reach due to ignorance of the nature of true love. When one understands the meaning of true love they are not unhappy, distressed or miserable when the person or an external material possession departs because they know they love themselves truly, which means they could only offer true love to the one they let go and there was no other way forward (acceptance) - it is a most powerful and neutral balance one can attain at that particular moment and that balance is actually the strength of love of oneself rather than anything outside, but reflects to the other person as love in turn. When the balance tilts (one or both seek new direction) the other must leave because the law of the universe cannot operate with opposing polarities in the same circle, it only allows connection and construction to be together if they are heading in the same direction. So what we see as destruction is actually constructive workings of nature for a higher purpose whether we like it or not and this is why it is paramount to find that place inside ourselves - it is our retreat available every second of the day. This is a true understanding of the self - it is like the beautiful butterfly that takes off as she finds a new horizon and heads for the sunlight.

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5/19/2016

Many of us seem to have a design in mind in which we intend to implement so that our lives can unfold in a particular way, especially as we move through the teenager years into early adult life because we can become more dependant on the need of our hopeful outcomes. The idea that our design should work out perfectly is actually quite natural, but often doesn't quite unfold the way we had hoped.

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Breathless Moments

5/15/2016

"Here & Now; When you reach tomorrow it is not often clear why yesterday was so important, so it seemed, though ultimately, in your enlightenment you will understand that nothing matters, apart from here & now, however bleak it may look on the horizon, it is all you ever truly have.
Moments are breathless, especially this one." - Daniel Dempster.

The Light Of Truth

1/19/2016

"I believe that no darkness or sickness can counter or withstand the presence of God, therefore, when I feel the darkness over me I am able to measure my distance from God - it's okay, I've only gone for a short walk... I'll be home soon." Daniel Dempster.

The Art of Space: Relationships

1/4/2016

Simple people in the world are extremely powerful and calibrate higher than other human beings because they occupy less mental space allowing them to move quicker from point A to point B. When you send out the same thought into the universe it will materialise quicker because there is one command and one return. The problem is that most people change their minds every single second - there is no consistency in their thinking which means they have diluted mental processes and weak relationships. They never reach completion but send out multiple requests resulting in multiple manifestations - Ultimately this is confusion.

The alarming rate of failing relationships around the globe is due to the lack of space between each interaction, therefore a lack of power. This could be the relationship of a broken marriage between husband and wife or the relationship between the sun and the moon. When the rate of space declines both parties in the relationship consume each other. The less space between two objects means the more dense it will appear to the human eye and also has an effect on the psyche. Because the soul operates within the realm of consciousness, it is faster than the speed of light (consciousness is what you are experiencing now), and therefore can only move freely into an open space. Consciousness is not made up of time and space therefore we can only place it in the context of the mind when we are describing it because this is the tool we are trying to understand. The impulsive nature of the attached egotistic human is to invade space and take over within any form of relationship to try and fix what seems to be a problem. In reality there are no problems there are only consequences. What is perceived as a problem to one person could be seen as a potential solution to another. Therefore it can be seen that everything is merely a point of view. If we add all of the individual points of view together we see the calamities cross the globe and we can then see the conflict between every relationship. Everybody thinks that they have the answer for someone else's problem but fails to see where they are falling short in their own lives.

The relationship with man and woman is the least studied relationship around the world yet it is the most experienced. The reason most relationships fail is due to the fact that both parties insist on imposing their beliefs on the other which is the application of force and because the internal spirit is pure consciousness it cannot be held down or trapped. If man and woman were to truly understand their own nature they would reach the realisation that freedom from attachment is the creation of the space that is needed to nurture every single relationship they form through the idea, then application of unconditional love. It is this love that cuts the center of all fallacies and brings truth to the surface. A relation will never stand the test of time (space) through an imposed, self-centered attempt to 'shape' the partner.

In the realm of the world (the projection of the mind) space is the most powerful place in existence. It is the only available 'vehicle' that allows a potential to become an actuality. In our experience, without space nothing can move and if nothing can move then change is not possible and everything would stagnate. With movement in operation, energy circulates and regenerates the life force that we see all around us. Everything is a relationship of some kind or another however the principle of relationships is always the same in everything that occurs in existence. There is a bond, and there is space between each bond - without the space between these bonds everything would either exist as one or not exist at all. When someone or something is operating within a lower energy field the matter is dense and heavier, such as a pile of bricks. The bricks exert force onto anything they come into contact with and this can clearly be proven by picking up a brick - the arm is forced downwards and therefore requires the same amount of force or more force to counter the pressure. Anything that operates within the higher energy fields such as clouds or beams of light will travel much faster due to the intrinsic power of its own energy field.

Life taught me to have a little more compassion; and not to worry about things that haven't actually happened...

10/11/2015

Parental Guidance; Sound Solutions

9/26/2015

"Many adults discipline their children through punishment or material deprivation and almost every case has lacks the vital ingredient;- injecting a solution (empowerment) to influence the dynamics of an environment that are causing the recurring issue so that an individual can be reprogrammed with sufficient change to meet one's own potential success." - Daniel Dempster

Many will come into our life as we forward along the path and more often than not the balance will be tilted, the balance which we term as normality. We term 'normal' as an environment that we feel is safe in and one which fits within our acceptable mental frame of mind. Every balance in life is struck with acceptance. Finding a harmonious balance is sought out by first accepting responsibility for any situation (to the untrained mind usually a problem), as it arises. Wondering why similar problems continue to arise in life leaves us at a crossroads. Why, is the key to understanding, but without a solution in place the reason is irrelevant. Solutions are the key focus point to development, improvement and success in all areas of life.

The Parent: A Child's Mirror

9/26/2015

The life of a child is so precious, but to live as adults in ignorance and throw away our own intelligence we compromise their entire life and a chance of a stable future; this is why it should be mandatory to challenge and confront our own weaknesses, seeking to strengthen them before we throw meaningless words around without any intended action such as “I love my kids.” - This term is often the end of the line and many adults are self-deluded into thinking that by making such righteous statements in peer groups, social gatherings an mainly to themselves, they have cultivated enough right to call themselves a competent parent. The truth is self-evident in that competent parenting can be measured by the child's behavior, to a certain degree, but moreover to the way they handle their own reactions within the child's development structure. The parent who is continuously trying to prove to others that they 'love' their children, are usually lying to themselves because those who truly love and care for their own do not need to speak the term over and over or to prove it at all - the love can clearly be seen through constant action and they are in a much more secure personal place than having to make statements to cover the painful truth that they are avoiding something. A true parent does not consider the love for their child or sacrifice the child's development at the price of their own public image. This happens everyday especially within family circles where parents pass the children around to either keep up appearances, satisfy the other or free up their own time, avoiding responsibility. Most parents are simply avoiding responsibility because they are in a habit of doing so. The first time they ever avoided something it was simply because they couldn’t be bothered or that they had something better to do and after a few more experiences of the same, it becomes second nature. When things start to go wrong or the parent is questioned on their ability to parent responsibly they look elsewhere externally, or for an excuse, any excuse to justify their actions and here we have the ego at play once again. Firstly, it is generating energy to sustain its survival and this is truly all it wants but the problem that the parent faces is that they cannot see the denial that they are in and are now forever on the wheel of illusion telling themselves that they have made the right decision. The child on the other hand is suffering because the parent does not hold sufficient knowledge, or chooses the easy root to silence the challenges they face and together they both fall into the trap of self-denial because this now becomes their alternate reality which works as a resistance to the truth of life - the true reality of existence.

There is no doubt that the mother or father loves their child, the doubt stems from the inner workings of the individual because they think of the possibilities and the hardships they may have to go through to change their ways and therefore turn away from the truth that they need to take action. If the adult were to simply stop thinking and look at the situation as it really is they would see that all is needed at the present moment is action. The question of what action should be taken should always be, and nothing can ever exceed this statement in personal development - “What is the next loving thing to do?” There is much action to be taken in life though the mind tends to project fear almost 99 percent of the time which often results in no action being taken at all. We have become separate from our own inner balance and true Self, the higher Self and therefore think that we are separate from everyone and everything around us. The perception of reality has become severely distorted and therefore is passed down to our children as they mimic our actions and pickup on our energetic vibration that we give off. When in the presence of a low energy field such as anger or hatred, maybe an angry parent, the child becomes fearful because this is unnatural to their spiritual balance and because they do not possess the tools to carry out the necessary action to overcome the fear or the courage to face the dilemma they seek to withdraw into their own thoughts and begin the endless pursuit of looking for another way, any way but to face the painful task of managing an unmanageable parent who has lost their ability to stay calm. The child that looks for another way will duplicate such actions which soon become seared into the memory and are now a part of the blueprint in which they will subconsciously operate throughout the rest of their lives until either life gets too painful too handle or someone shows them a clear path and the error in the thinking which they have adopted by their parent or their surroundings.

Every child wants to be loved and when they feel a decline in the amount of intrinsic power in themselves, they do not often realise it but they then become fearful of either what has happened to them or what is about to happen. This is where the personal will kicks in and makes decisions based on illusion, that is to say that an action is taken based on something that is not even true. Any action taken from what one has experienced in the past or what one fears will come to pass in the future moving the person away from the truth of life - the only truth of life is the moment that is currently being experienced such as this moment now as you, the reader who are reading this book. There is no reality outside of this moment and what has happened in the past is only a relative reality because the dynamics are changing through every moment that is experienced. The child’s mind works with simplicity and this can be seen clearly because children cannot understand complex mathematical sums or scientific calculations though if you ask a child how they feel or what they sense in a particular person or experience they can usually tell you that they have a feeling of security or insecurity and this is because they are still very much in touch with their instincts. The parent who teaches the child to follow their instincts and to hold their intellect in second place gives the child a springboard into the realm of self-trust and this is key to the growth of any growing child.

Tired of Pleading Your Case Yet?

9/26/2015

Seeking approval from the outside world is a consequence and of a lack of self worth and trust. Self worth is an understanding of one's own capabilities in contrast to the world we live in and trust is an absolute, a knowing that we can rely on our discernment. We have the person who enters an environment wherever that may be, with a severe lack of confidence and this is one who feels intimated by their surroundings; an anxious individual to say the least. When in this state they have no intrinsic power to positively influence the energy field of the surrounding environment and therefore sooner or later fall further down the endless pit of insecurity. Look at the body language and rigid movements, you can see that everything is usually withdrawn which is a trained mechanism intended to protect themselves.

At the other end of the scale we have those who tune into their true Self. This is one who walks into a room and changes the dynamics instantly without even saying a word due to their powerful, undiluted energy field emanating from them. These are charismatic people whom we are compelled to be drawn to no matter how much we try to avoid them. Usually it is envy, jealousy or personal insecurity that tells us there is something 'wrong' with this person. The phrase that often springs to mind is - "He must be hiding something." Look at the body language, the movements and free-flowing with confidence and are like fluid in motion. The truth of the whole situation, the force that is driving us is usually always a fear that we will not look so good when stood beside this person, who seems to be stealing the limelight away from us. If we calibrate ourselves against this person we will be able to see exactly where we are on the scale of confidence. If our confidence and self-worth levels exceeded this person we would hardly even notice them. We actually cut ourselves off from learning what people have to offer to hide the fact that maybe we do need help, but are too embarrassed to ask through fear.

Those who do not need the approval of others are able to live this way because they have let go of the worthlessness and self-pitying act that they are not good enough - this act is usually a default method of tricking others into doing our work for us, to sympathise and to plead our case with us. When things don't go our way and we have people in our circle backing our argument, they plead our case with us in agreement that life has so badly wronged us. We often see these people as the ones who understand, and that the rest of the world just doesn't seem to know what they are talking about. When we are wrong we cannot see that we are wrong, for if it were clear then most of us would seek out the solution to make right what we can at this moment. When we have people backing us - "I'll stick by you right or wrong," they are actually detrimental to our growth and in these scenarios we have double the driving force and therefore more impact when the truth finally hits home. Here is a common scenario where we misplace our trust in our closest peers with an idea that because they are agreeing with us, they must be right. Are we willing to look at the ordeal from an entirely different angle?

Sat, Sep 26, 2015

9/26/2015

The Illusion of Tomorrow

9/22/2015

Here & Now; When you reach tomorrow it is not often clear why yesterday was so important, so it seemed, though ultimately, in your enlightenment you will understand that nothing matters, apart from here & now, however bleak it may look on the horizon, it is all you ever truly have.

Moments are breathless, especially this one.

Where you are at right now is exactly where you are supposed to be, how could it be any other way? Tomorrow does not exist does it, if it did then it would be tomorrow today. What about hope? Ah, the precious hope... It is intention followed by action that secures a sense of direction does it not, a chance that one will gain through persistent faith? Hope, is the seed of faith that spreads throughout humanity when one has put all possible effort in. "Here life, the idea I call life, I leave it up to you now, take the lead...I trust you." - Hope.

When did it ever matter what 'they' thought anyway? We only listened when it suited us, when it fell in accordance with our plans, follow that intuition, that gut instinct that screams and shatters all emotion with the words "I know."

In case you didn't realise, they cannot harm you...but you can.

If we stay, we hurt. If we leave, we hurt. What are my options where I am? Would things ever change after such a long haul of misery, intertwined with the odd occasion where we might share a smile in the wind, the whirlwind we call love? Doors open when i place my palm upon the handle of faith, when I take that leap across the bridge to normal living, wherever that may be. It has to be better than here, though at all costs, even if I am to give up my life, I will walk with my head high, and if I don't then I may as well sit back there and swing in my armchair and be...happy.

They may stick arrows into your heart, why wouldn't they? Would you be able to handle the pain or bare the struggle alone, co-dependency will see them through the night, it can never live here though, I can't live with the imbalance, the tilt and maladjustment towards life, it depleted my eternal spirit, for a while anyway. Don't bother to gather your thoughts, let them go, see them flow downstream as you become free from your own made inner turmoil - yes, you have made this, I, me and not they. Be responsible, be brave and walk the bridge less crossed. So it seems that to catch a train out of here I must first buy my ticket - movement is freedom and freedom is this moment here and now. Yesterday lingers and tomorrow never comes. Here is my ticket...or there is the tunnel leading nowhere, and this is the illusion of tomorrow.

Daniel Dempster.