Let go of your expectations and ideas of what you think should happen. Expectations are what have damaged us most. These are the mental thoughts and ideas we have created in relation to how we think life should be. As life unfolds, if it does not match our expectations, we become angry, upset, disappointed and emotional. When people ‘let us down,’ especially our children, partners and other close relations, it is usually in an instant that we become emotional and negative feelings begin to rise to the surface causing inner turmoil. This is the emotion that people act on and make decisions in haste which they later regret. There is no limit to the range of impulsive actions people are liable to take when at the mercy of their own emotion, from the smallest of quarrels to deeply painful experiences and fatalities which we can see around the globe today. The daily news is streamlined and riddled with updates of destructive information on mass death and killing and this is all down to the negative energies that are at play throughout the world.
Using a simple method, we can manage our emotions effectively. What does it mean to manage an emotion? Simply put; it means to be able to face it head on until it dissolves so we can see through the smoke of its empowerment that it had over us for the time it was present. By facing your own emotions you will remove the impulsive nature and desire to act in haste when you are in the presence of something or someone undesirable.
The simple method is as follows; when something arises in your life that arouses emotion within you that seems to be overpowering, at that very moment that it begins to rise disregard the thought that pops up in the brain. Notice how something bad happens and you become angry or upset. At this very moment do not take any action, and definitely do not act upon the first few thoughts that spring to mind. Let the thoughts pass, allow the emotion to rise up to its peak and sit with it - do not try to suppress the emotion, or the thoughts that have sprung from it. Allow them to fade away into the background. Let the emotion rise and then slowly fall away without taking any action at all. If you are in a situation which requires an immediate response, for example, you need to response to a person or give an answer then tell them you need some time to think and you will get back to them. By moving away from the situation you change the dynamics in an instant even if you do not notice. Unless you are in the same arena that the emotion was aroused it will have no reality there and will fade away eventually. Once you are back in balance you can then revisit the problem and take a realistic action with a clear head rather than taking an impulsive action which you will probably later regret.
Using a simple method, we can manage our emotions effectively. What does it mean to manage an emotion? Simply put; it means to be able to face it head on until it dissolves so we can see through the smoke of its empowerment that it had over us for the time it was present. By facing your own emotions you will remove the impulsive nature and desire to act in haste when you are in the presence of something or someone undesirable.
The simple method is as follows; when something arises in your life that arouses emotion within you that seems to be overpowering, at that very moment that it begins to rise disregard the thought that pops up in the brain. Notice how something bad happens and you become angry or upset. At this very moment do not take any action, and definitely do not act upon the first few thoughts that spring to mind. Let the thoughts pass, allow the emotion to rise up to its peak and sit with it - do not try to suppress the emotion, or the thoughts that have sprung from it. Allow them to fade away into the background. Let the emotion rise and then slowly fall away without taking any action at all. If you are in a situation which requires an immediate response, for example, you need to response to a person or give an answer then tell them you need some time to think and you will get back to them. By moving away from the situation you change the dynamics in an instant even if you do not notice. Unless you are in the same arena that the emotion was aroused it will have no reality there and will fade away eventually. Once you are back in balance you can then revisit the problem and take a realistic action with a clear head rather than taking an impulsive action which you will probably later regret.