


''EVEN YOUR OWN SHADOW LEAVES YOU IN THE DARKEST HOUR OF THE NIGHT.'' ![]() Sometimes we find ourselves wondering why our life seems to constantly bring us more of what we don't want instead of what we have asked for. Our desire for materials or experiences is an energy that we project onto the world and not life that projects the energy onto us. We decide through social programming whether something is good, bad and right or wrong and are therefore placing another distorted opinion on what we call the world. This opinion has been built up layer upon layer by the social programming that has been constructed over many years since the birth of mankind. Regardless of where they have come from it is up to us to remove them if we want to be free. Looking for someone or something to place the blame on is a complete waste of time and a disregard of personal responsibility in ignorance of our own needs. We are responsible for every single situation that appears in our life. Yes you are responsible for every single one of them as it appears in your life. Taking responsibility for our whole life is the first step to freedom and anything that we are not accountable for will fall away from our experience. We are not guilty of anything that we do not understand though we are responsible for raising our self-awareness to do better. Becoming free from our own imprisoned mind and adopting simplicity where complex situations arise is the key to a happy and successful life. ![]() We all have needs in the world and there are many obvious necessities such as love, nurture, food and water which we all need to sustain our existence and grow in a productive and healthy manner. If we search deep inside we will find that most of our needs are not really needs but habits that we have trained our minds to copy and follow. We now accept them as normality and have come to believe that life would be empty without them. We have accepted these ideas and memes which appear in the form of slogans, systems, signs, images, pathways, habits, moods, modes, strategies and a multitude of other forms they arise in. They become gently infused into brain leaving us unaware of the damage they are doing to us in every moment. There is nothing wrong with desire in the world the problem is the neediness of the desire. It is suggested to give up the attachment to your desires or at least begin the process now. We seek our dreams to the ends of the Earth and become frustrated when they do not materialise and after giving up we change direction. This is usually when the dream appears. (When we do not hold that particular desire anymore). ![]() When someone or something enters our life or leaves us it can be devastating if we are not prepared for it or aware of its coming or going. If we are internally and mentally trained we are aware that such attachments are destructive to our existence and then have the ability to make the change to what is beneficial for us. You never actually lose or gain anything in the world you only think you do. Experiences appear in front of us on a daily basis but usually we do not like what we see and don't even realise that we have brought them upon ourselves. Should we get upset or frustrated about this? This kind of reaction will not serve us and will emanate an energy out of us attracting more of what we do not want. Everything manifests from the unconscious then into thought form and manifests on the physical plane with its counterpart energy field in consciousness. All that anything can be at any moment in time is all that is possible under the current conditions. When someone has upset us and we seek to change them or the circumstances we are operating from a point of resistance in the universe and are sending out a negative energy which will bring us more and more of the same. We often feel that they could have tried harder to satisfy our demands. When we think in this way we overlook the fact that most people would obviously do better if they only knew how. Doing our best is never a failure it is the gateway to better things no matter what the result is. We either choose to accept things in life or battle them out with our mind until we become mentally exhausted or physically ill using energy that we could have put to use elsewhere in finding solutions. Usually later on we find that most of the things we did not receive where to our own advantage and something better was waiting around the corner. Like a teenager who wants the latest football shirt and acquires it on impulse in the shop only to find it marked at half the price a few days later in another shop. Though how many children do you know of that learn from these kind of experiences? Hardly any! They usually go on applying the same attitude towards life for years until they finally learn their lesson, if ever. This is clearly seen in adults too and is where most of the children pickup their habits.
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The vulnerable infant, the defiant teenager, the struggling young adult and the confused parent. What a maze of wires we seek to untangle in the struggle for balance throughout our years of parenting. When will we strike this neutral balance and what is the shortest route to get there? Time is so precious as we soon come to realize when our babies quickly spring out from their infant years under our noses, straight into their early teen years. The beauty we once thought would stare us in the face for a lifetime, the innocence we once cherished seems to be slipping away through a monstrous evolution called growth. A parent’s nightmare seems to be the uncontrollable and defiant child that simply cannot see the well-intentioned parent - why has this kind of common conflict spread all across the globe and how can it be addressed in the most effective way whilst minimizing time and effort? Before our children are born our imagination seems to be fired, aflame with the ideas of how our children might grow, how we might shape their future so that they can become happy, successful and pleasant members of society. Here is the well-intention parent such as you and I, and here is our expectation in a world of uncertainty. Are we setting ourselves up for pain in life through our expectation or does life really fall short of delivering justice? What is confusion? Confusion is not being able to understand the reason for something due to expectation clouding our natural vision. If we have no expectation, then whatever presents itself in front of us will be true in its own form for we would have placed no resistance within ourselves to counter its reason (we see things exactly as they are without taking judgement). If one can even come close to viewing ourselves, the child, the teenager or anything in the world in this state of clarity then we are almost home and dry to maximizing the potential for the best possible outcome in any situation. The single principle which can be noted as self-awareness can be applied to any area of life though we will use the idea of parent and child as this seems to be the common area of struggle throughout the world today and of course, change starts at home - within.
![]() We can become scared to look into the mirror of reality due to the memories of pain and suffering and the fact that we may need to make changes that will drive us far from our comfort zones. In reality there is no harsh hand of cards dealt to the ‘less fortunate.’ Each individual is in their current position due to their choices that they have made and it is a karmic inheritance. When we notice suffering in the world then this is where we have placed our attention and is an aspect of our own inner suffering looking directly back at us - the mirror of our own reality. That is not to say that nobody suffers, though wouldn't it be a good idea to minimise it starting with ourselves by focusing in a positive direction? The world is within us and not outside of our body as we think because take away the body and you exit the world, so to speak. We are an aspect of the huge energy field that allows the world to operate and we are an extension of this energy. Every single atom in existence has the universal potential within it and this is a part of the immaculate blueprint of life. When fear is dominant in us, the universe creates more situations of what we are running from because we are seeding the thought and that current energy pattern - this is what the future will bring. Do we really want to run throughout our whole life from fear or is the universe actually assisting us by providing situations for us to overcome them? When we live in fear we project this energy out into the world and it gives us more and more until we change our energy pattern. If we only had one chance at overcoming our fears in life most of us would have failed a long time ago so that fact that the universe continues to cultivate chance is a fortunate thing. It is not life throwing us a harsh hand of cards rather than life offering us the opportunity to relinquish problems once and for also that we can be free of them. We are on a path, a journey to fulfil our potential with every minute and every step that we take whilst walking this Earth and this is happening whether we are consciously aware of it or not. The magical part is being aware so that we can enjoy every single moment. After continuously practising the techniques described herein the egotistic shadow of the personality has now started to fall away and we now begin to breathlessly accomplish tasks and actualise our potential like never before. What most people call magical and miraculous we will very soon come to know as normality. Our intentions will begin to match our desires which will finally cease to elude us. By reading this text so far our worldly experience has already changed and we will never be the same again. We will never experience the world the same way or look out onto the horizon as we have before because every single moment that passes in our lives is a new experience and all we ever really have is now. The past or the future is not real and it is only this moment now that is real. We cannot create the future by daydreaming about it we have to take the necessary action now. Cherish the moment of now in everything that is experienced as every single step we take leaves an everlasting footprint in the universe and there is no escape from our own karma. What we are is our karma. Take a slow relaxing breath and clear the mind of any unwanted thoughts lingering around. Now focus inside near the intuitive gut area. Focus on the place where we often feel 'butterflies' rather than searching outside of the body and read on with an open mind enjoying this moment now. Life is an endless expanse of building blocks and there is never a last piece to the puzzle. We are on the leading edge of creativity.
THOUGH FAILURE IS NEVER REALLY FAILURE IS IT? ![]() Never a failure always a lesson. I do not know anyone who has failed. I have never met a single person who has failed although I know many people who are still learning. What is failure? It is a learned set of attitudes. It takes practice to keep on failing! It is another mind virus operating throughout the entire world. It takes effort to think of yourself as a failure over and over again. If a golfer makes a hole-in-one shot from the tee then surely it would take skill for him to do it again? What difference is this skill to one who constantly misses the hole? It is the mechanics of the player and his learned technique. If we consider ourself a failure then we have simply trained ourself to fail. This is another program running inside the mind which is activated each time we set out to complete a task, it is our trained expectation. “I'm no good at golf” or “I was never any good” is a prime example of why people cannot overcome situations. Look around at the many people, child and adults who rarely ever complete a task. Very rarely do they finish a picture, a book, a sentence or story - hardly anything reaches completion for that matter! Take a look at some of the children of today and observe how they move from one experience to another. When writing or drawing they often write a sentence or draw a small picture on a piece of paper then move to the next page. They often use the whole pad of paper and have hardly even written a single line on any page. What is it in the child or any human being that would instruct them to act in such a manner? It is the mental program of incompletion and the feeling of boredom - but the boredom seeds the incompletion. The mental program executes the action and the lack of understanding of their own feelings is the makeup of this phenomena. This is what they have copied from their experience so far and have picked up from their surroundings. The child thinks that there is something better waiting on the next page or simply turns the page out of habit and has a trained thought patten which quickly jumps to the next moment. ![]() With this pattern of thought nobody can ever derive their full potential out of any situation, they are cultivating quantity rather than quality and will continue to do so until life teaches them otherwise. This individual is a product of social programming and their mind has been trained to act in this way. Many children jump from one thing to another throughout the whole day exhausting every single activity there is until they get bored and then move onto the next activity. The following day the child awakens again using exactly the same method to push through the day with no understanding of the process. This has now become a trained set of values and the child values this as their existence. It shall be this way unless a responsible parent or adult teaches the child ways to extract the fullness and the quality out of life. They need to be shown patience & beauty in completion. This can be done through love and responsibility and teaching them to make full use of their surroundings rather than the usual method where the parent simply points out the errors that are being made offering no further solution. Many parents are quick to jump on their children for their lack of understanding and wonder why they keep on repeating the same mistakes, rarely offering solutions and merely pointing out problems. It is obvious we only know what we have been taught or that which we teach ourselves so we have a responsibility to the eduction of ourselves which in turn educates our children. It is often those who think they are the best parents that disable their children via their own ego structure because they have blocked both parties (each other) from the critical learning process. The child will also imitate and eventually operate from the same viewpoint and pattern throughout their own life with limited understanding and insufficient power to overcome the difficulties of life. ![]() This issue is not only happening to our children, it is a vast majority of the population facing this dilemma. People who work in business and corporate organisations often overlook the fact that every limitation of their employees and staff methods are their own responsibility to nurture. The staff need to be given effective training in needed areas and should be approached in a constructive, caring manner in place of disciplinary. There is nothing wrong with a disciplinary scheme however, the dominant area of application needs to be the learning process for the company and employees to progress forward rather than deteriorate. Rewards instead of reductions clearly motivate the staff which would help them operate more effectively, taking a happier and healthier approach towards their work. This also works for our children and in fact anything we approach or experience in life. Suitable action can then be executed in confidence that the work has not completed to satisfaction and the company has provided the best possible conditions to resolve the matter. Responsibility then moves from management to employee. By doing this we create a much more effective working environment for all concerned including ourselves moving further towards completion of our desired goal in a more effective manner. "How can you be in pain when true love leaves if they will always be in your heart? It is impossible" - Daniel Dempster ![]() How does one handle the pain of loss? Where is the justice in losing a loved one, or even our own dignity from being a slave to the darkness? In this situation the individual usually believes that the dark corner they are curled up in has them in the tight chains of injustice. Through loss of such a cherished loved one it seems that it is an entity of such enormous power that has us on our knees with every memory being another lash of the whip. For those of us who feel we cannot make it through, what can we do when someone we truly love leaves us, such as the relationship falling apart or the event of a tragedy? In the first few months, years or even a lifetime the mind usually beats us from pillar to post telling us that we can't go on - maybe we drink, have suicidal thoughts, breakdown and cry constantly, seek out professional help? The road is an endless trudge of unstable steps when we are so broken. The loss of a loved one can make the toughest man or woman shatter into pieces - the glass mirror we once looked through called love. So then where is the love and why such cruelty for so many goodhearted people? There is a reason, and of course, a solution - ground zero. This is the place where we can't bare to lift our heads from and look straight at the world, though unknowingly it is the same place where the broken fragments on the floor can be pieced together in the strength of our being, making us stronger and allowing us to walk with the memory as a joy to remember rather than a heartache to carry for the rest of our lives. The cherished one we once held in a cocoon can float through the storm in our minds like a beautiful butterfly if we change our point of perception, that is to deal with the pain from the inside and not look at what's missing outside. Get up now or get up later, but one day we have to lift our heads up and face the world - one day we are going to get sick of the misery and let go, so better that day be today rather than tomorrow which never comes - find the fire inside - simple as that. ![]() There are two types of love; one is unconditional (true) love which can never ever fade and is imprinted in the universal consciousness forever. It is engraved in the heart and soul of every being though only a few choose to notice so they can remove the blocks to it. This consciousness is everything you know, see and experience and everything you don't know - it is all possibilities. What we don't know we think of as the future and everyone unfolds a different future of course. We all gain love, friends, family, wealth, happiness and we all lose the same giving us the opposite of what we once held dearly - it is the roller coaster ride and the game of life, but it is only a game if you play it otherwise you will be played into a position you will most probably not favour. Then there is the love that the majority of the population experience which they do not realise is an attachment or lust to say the least, and this is why they cry when they lose the thing they think they love. Basically, they do not trust that the love within themselves is the only real love that they can ever experience and this is why they hardly ever tap into its source and always break at the loss of one thing or another. It starts from childhood - take the toy away from the child and it cries because it thinks it's happiness is in the toy, it doesn't realise the toy has no feeling offer it and that he himself generates the energy. Teach the same child how to love, nurture, understand and care for himself and you have a child who is less likely to be drawn to attachment, or at least will handle it better with less consequences when it faces loss. This principle is the same for every single human on the planet, no exceptions, and the child (or person) will grow housing a higher level of internal power to utilise in the future - it's going to need it! ![]() Your partner, sibling, wealth, job, social status and all of these things outside are not true love it is you that feels the love is it not? Only you are true love. So if the love comes from inside you then it is you that has projected that love onto something that you find special. It is you that sensory projects an energy onto what you desire and that is why you are distressed when it is taken away, unless of course you realise that the loving energy was within you all along. When you reach this state of being nothing can penetrate you and your internal rate of power rises. When we die the world will go on without us and whoever we leave behind, if they are unaware of this concept, will crumble at the loss because you and the other, whatever that may be will not have experienced true love - it was an attachment. It is a simple concept but hard to grasp for a mind which is blinded by attachment. Failure to realise this concept is someone who does not know the workings of their inner self. Because they are permanently focused on seeing the world through the visual eye they project a certain energy onto that which they see in the world and seek to keep it and hold it within their grasp forever. Had they realised their power within they would know the true meaning of why everything dies in the world - nothing whatsoever lasts forever in this domain. ![]() Like the old saying goes 'If you love someone let them go.' In any relationship, any kind of smothering, attachment, jealousy, the spoilt child with the toy, the rich man with all at his disposal that weeps at the loss - any of this kind of activity will create deep emotion which will explode at a later date certainly at the wrong time and end in tears or catastrophe, adding to another personal burden for each to offload if they ever figure out what is going on inside them. When is the right time for negative emotion to come out? - With a shrink or after fighting and hurting each other? This is what tears apart relationships of all kinds leaving broken hearts and such deep pain that the person cannot stand to be with or without those external things and it has now become a vicious cycle - it is worldwide and all because they cannot learn to love themselves enough that when the storm comes they do not sway. Self-knowledge is solid roots like the tree that knows if its roots are not deep enough in the ground it would not stand for long when the storm hits. Everything in the universe is by design - see the baby tree freshly planted, it does not snap in the storm because by Grand design the storm does not come to a place where things are not ready to withstand it - watch them grow. Self-love and the art of relationships is a design that is not to be built personally, it is to be discovered within and only when you find this within your true match will touch the plane of your heart and if ever they go you will smile at the wonder that nothing can break you, or them. This is only a partial observation of the idea of love (as the untrained population see it) in the male and female, sibling and material value relationships. ![]() Lovers, friends, families and more are ripped apart through smothering the partner or the opposition through a battle of supremacy over who is right or wrong or who should be the decision maker. The potential solution for a lasting relationship is the idea that each person should obviously lead in certain areas (where they are clearly more skilled) but both need to realise that there is a time to step back and let the other take the lead even if the partner is 'wrong.' We hardly ever see that all most people want is to be heard and given a chance, an opportunity to make an achievement or a mistake so they can learn. A couple who can stay together and build an ongoing ship to steer takes teamwork and dedication to reach a long standing relationship just the same as the couple who can part and go their separate ways with a smile in their hearts have truly learned the art of self-love. It is paramount for both to reach their destination in harmony whether together or apart. The leader and the follower, the superior and inferior relationship will never be a fulfilled and comforting life because it leaves the other trailing in the shadow of the one they want to love but cannot reach due to ignorance of the nature of true love. When one understands the meaning of true love they are not unhappy, distressed or miserable when the person or an external material possession departs because they know they love themselves truly, which means they could only offer true love to the one they let go and there was no other way forward (acceptance) - it is a most powerful and neutral balance one can attain at that particular moment and that balance is actually the strength of love of oneself rather than anything outside, but reflects to the other person as love in turn. When the balance tilts (one or both seek new direction) the other must leave because the law of the universe cannot operate with opposing polarities in the same circle, it only allows connection and construction to be together if they are heading in the same direction. So what we see as destruction is actually constructive workings of nature for a higher purpose whether we like it or not and this is why it is paramount to find that place inside ourselves - it is our retreat available every second of the day. This is a true understanding of the self - it is like the beautiful butterfly that takes off as she finds a new horizon and heads for the sunlight. Many of us seem to have a design in mind in which we intend to implement so that our lives can unfold in a particular way, especially as we move through the teenager years into early adult life because we can become more dependant on the need of our hopeful outcomes. The idea that our design should work out perfectly is actually quite natural, but often doesn't quite unfold the way we had hoped.
For anyone struggling to achieve desires or going through any particular pain, you can call for your free 30 minute, no obligation consultation to discuss any issue which we can surely help you with to achieve your desires and unlock your hidden potential. Do not be held captive by the prison of your own mind, make the call and make the difference. You can find our contact number on the contact tab at the top of this page or alternatively send us an email through the contact form. We are here to help. "Here & Now; When you reach tomorrow it is not often clear why yesterday was so important, so it seemed, though ultimately, in your enlightenment you will understand that nothing matters, apart from here & now, however bleak it may look on the horizon, it is all you ever truly have.
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